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Luke Conard Seemingly Both Apologises for and Denies Allegations, Internet Really Not Buying It

^ If this doesn’t sum up the response I’m not really sure what will (image used with the kind permission of Steph

Several days after allegations against him initially surfaced YouTuber and “Wrock” musician Luke Conard has made a post on his Tumblr addressing them:

"I, in no way, am looking to discredit or minimize anyone’s pain, and I’m certainly not excusing any of my wrong doing, but it does make me upset that Kristina and Whitney’s posts seemingly lump me in with other allegations I have seen on Tumblr this week. The events that they recounted in their posts happened while everyone involved was of legal age, and were 100% consensual"

"I’ve done things in the past that I wish I could undo. I feel terrible about the way things ended with Kristina and Whitney and I’m truly sorry. I’ve told both of them that, in private. If you walk away from this post remembering one thing, it’s that I am sorry about the way I acted towards them and I wish that I could take back some of the things that I did"

Whether these two paragraphs taken together constitute a contradiction is arguable, It’s noticeable that, compared to the detailed accounts of Horner and Milam, he doesn’t seem to directly mention any specific event or, well, anything in detail. Instead making vague references to “the way I acted”, “the things that I did”, “my actions”, and “traumatic events”.

Along with other issues, Conard’s seeming resistance to being drawn on the outright facts of the matter have been in an unfavourable light by many people.


The response to his statement has been generally negative and at times openly hostile, perhaps even more so than the response to Alex Day’s statement on the matter, he and Conard being the only two out of the YouTubers so far accused to make them.

As well as directly reblogging his post to make their replies (in many of which the word “bullshit” is very well represented) lots of people have been using Conard’s tumblr tag as a place to vent their frustration with his alleged actions and his response

”[…]don’t victim blame your exes and try to explain your bullshit away. “I thought I was clear we weren’t together”. Yeah, I don’t think you were clear and I don’t think that YOU thought you were clear. You just wanted another girl on the hook for when you got bored.
Basically his entire post was just like his music career. Full of auto-tune.”

"How can you write an “apology” that basically says: “Yeah, I know you think I abused and manipulated you but you are wrong. Also I had a bad breakup once"

Some people have also claimed that the post exhibits a lot of the hallmarks of manipulative behaviour itself:

"He uses his mom and sister to garner sympathy, he confirms-ish the story while mentioning none of the accusations, he apologizes for there feelings and not for anything they claim (which tries to subtly shift the blame on them for not understanding or a “miscommunication”, he states that he doesn’t want to minimize their pain while addressing his own pain to the exclusion of theirs"

Including a probation officer who works with perpetrators of domestic violence:

"if you’re wanting a choice example of what a perpetrator’s version of events typically looks like, I recommend heading over to Luke Conard’s tumblr for some insight as to what I have listen to every fucking day"

Conard has also failed to make any real statement on the accusations that he took advantage of their not being a contract for the first ALL CAPS album “Songs in the Key of Email” to siphon off all the profits for himself, saying that he wishes to deal with that “separately” in another post, which he has yet to make.

Whether he will continue to post after that is unknown, this negative response to his statement may encourage him to let his social media presence go dark, as others with allegations leveled at them have chosen to do.

Regardless of whether he does so it’s certain that these allegations are not going away and that he can no longer count on having a completely receptive audience.

Filed under Luke Conard Kristina Horner Whitney Milam

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Luke Conard in Alleged Sexual Abuse, Branded an “Emotional Manipulator” and “Borderline Sociopath”

The 33 year old YouTuber, former ALL CAPS member and prominent member of the “Wrock” community Luke Conard has been added to the sexual and emotional abuse allegations ongoing within the YouTube community. Both he and Alex Carpenter are scheduled to appear as guests at Playlist Live.

The allegations against him, initially raised by former bandmate, prominent YouTuber and web series actress and producer Kristina Horner have been added to by YouTuber and fellow former girlfriend Whitney Milam.

Both spoke about their reasons for making their statements, referencing what has been happening within the community in recent days:

"i wasn’t going to speak up about my experiences dating within the youtube community. but as more and more brave women have come forward, i’ve finally convinced myself otherwise. my silence isn’t helping anybody - not even myself. i’ve been crying and i’ve felt nauseous and i’ve felt guilt and remorse and now fuck it, i’m just going to tell my story"

"what’s been surfacing in these online communities this week is bigger than me, and I’ve felt like a coward for remaining silent while too many women I greatly respect & admire have found the courage to put themselves out there and contextualize their negative experiences in the interest of a greater positive outcome"


At times Conard is said to have maintained relationships with several women at once, even after initially breaking up with Horner he apparently manipulated her into maintaining a public fascade while he pursued other women. A state of affairs he was apparently happy with until she went on a date with someone else.

"he told me if i didn’t sleep with him on that trip, i wasn’t serious about getting back together and it must mean that i slept with seattle guy on my date. this was absolutely ridiculous, but he forced me to have sex with him to prove i hadn’t slept with someone"

A pattern of behaviour he apparently went on to repeat with Milam after Horner finally ended it for good.

Milam states that he even used YouTube itself as a way to break down her self esteem, forcing her to appear in a video with him and then reading the most vicious comments aloud to her.

Then, months after breaking up with her for the first time:

"I attended a party at his house with friends, drank a lot, blacked out for the first time in my life - I do not remember anything about this party - and woke up the next morning in Luke’s bed. You can imagine my shock. When I asked him to explain, saying I couldn’t remember anything, he swore NOTHING had happened - according to him I was just drunk and fell asleep in his bed […] a girl I didn’t remember approached me to say she had been at that party and tried to get me out of the room after hearing indicative noises inside only to find he’d locked the door"

However, Conard managed to convince her that he had changed, and they began to date again, he sent long romantic emails and discussed the future with her, apparently all the while repeating the same patterns of behaviour apparent in his previous relationships, until she caught him red handed:

"We planned and threw a Halloween party together, and during our party I went up to use my things in his bathroom only to walk in on him in bed with a topless 19-year-old girl he had met on a video shoot a few days ago and previously informed me was a lesbian. He insisted she had cornered him in his room, shut the door, literally thrown him on the bed, and started kissing him entirely against his will. He was sorry he hadn’t ‘resisted’ as much as he should have"


ALL CAPS, an Electro-Pop band consisting of Horner and Conard, was formed in late 2009, released three albums “Songs in the Key of Email”, “Lowercase” and “Bmin/E” and toured twice. The band broke up in late 2011, at that time ostensibly because of Horner’s vocal nodes, a painful condition most common among female and child singers:

"people think i quit all caps because of my vocal nodes - and that’s partially true. luke got off easy in that sense. in fact, luke’s part of the reason my nodes got as bad as they did, because he was pretty sure it was something i was making up and encouraged me to sing through it all the time. but the real reason i quit all caps is because the time i spent with luke held some of the lowest moments in my entire life"

Not only that, but apparently Conard used the fact that they never drew up an official contract for the sale of their first album to ensure that he gained all the profits from sales of the first album, which was released independently, subsequent work being released through DFTBA records.

Conard has tweeted about the allegations, promising to make a statement, saying that:

"I’ve had a lot to process the past few days, I’m gonna get some sleep and address it all tomorrow"

The tweet is time stamped at 10 hours ago as of posting this article.

Filed under Luke Conard Kristina Horner Whitney Milam

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Allegations of Sexual Abuse and Manipulation made about ‘Wrock’ Musician Alex Carpenter, Questions About Protection for Young Fans

Former partners of Carpenter and established, popular YouTubers Rosianna Halse Rojas and Sarah Sterling have made statements saying that the now 31 year old “Wrock” musician, who occupied a prominent place in the online Harry Potter fan community and at the “LeakyCon” convention, used his influence to manipulate them into sexual conversations and situations starting when they were both 16 years old and he was 25:

"Early on he would say things to me like, “why do you have to be 16?” and “you’re so cute, I wish you were older”, but those clear red flags in his mind were not enough to stop him from pursuing me, and, me being 16, did not have the capacity to understand how dangerous the situation really was"

"I’m 17 and he’s giving me things to drink and wild old me accepts them, throws them down in one. At that time, let me state, I was a mess. I was so sick, in a lot of ways, and I spent half the convention crying. I watch him shout at his most regular girl, shout at her for spraining her ankle and not wanting to host a party […]somehow I end up in a stairwell, kissing him, and somehow I wake up the next day next to him, only to get up for the bathroom, get back and find him kissing the girl who was in bed next to me"

"I have let him sleep in my bed. All the while knowing that I’m not the only one, whatever the fuck he claims, all the while knowing that he is exploiting my insecurity, exploiting the power dynamic as he has done since I was 16, all the while knowing that he is a cheating liar, who explicitly messages girls in high school even though his in his thirties now, who thinks he can get away with it"

This is just the latest in a series of allegations started when Tom Milsom’s former girlfriend Olga alleged that he raped and sexually assaulted her on multiple occasions. Alex Day has since also been accused of sexual assault and using his status to manipulate underage girls into bed, like Carpenter, prominent YouTubers made statements about him.

Carpenter, like Milsom, has made no response to these allegations and his online accounts have remained inactive since they [the allegations] were made.


A lot of the alleged misconduct centres around un-named conventions in the United States attended by YouTubers.

In a community where most of the interaction takes place online, conventions are one of the few times that large numbers of people involved in the community will be present in one place, thus, it is perhaps unsurprising that when physical abuse happens, conventions are involved.

However, well knowing about the general rape and sexual assault problem present in western society and around the world, and about the power dynamics between older men and teenage girls even without those men holding positions of influence and admiration, a question has to be asked.

At conventions like LeakyCon, PlaylistLive and VidCon (where Tom Milsom first met Olga) as well as generally within the community, was enough effort made to protect the vulnerable, underage fans from those who had influence over them and make them aware of the dangers?

Perhaps it’s easy to ask that with the benefit of hindsight, and there is truth in that, but it must still be asked.

Safety Policies

LeakyCon states on it’s official website that:

"Attendees under the age of 18 attending LeakyCon without a registered parent or legal guardian must bring a signed and notarized permission form when they check in"

Past LeakyCon attendee Colin has made a post talking about safety there, saying that he has “unshakable faith” in staff members and attests to staff members going above and beyond to help him

"After three weeks of international travel, I was pretty physically sick/homesick by the time I got to LeakyCon London and had three LeakyCon Managers volunteer to be my “Leaky Moms” (god bless you Lawson, Jenn and Candace).

Other staff members at previous conferences have swooped in to save me from situations where I was clearly uncomfortable—even when my big mouth got me in those situations in the first place”

But he also raises concerns:

"However I’ve also seen aspects where things have become maybe a little too lax. For example, the chaperone policy that was once very strict has become more and more “hands-off” in recent years"

The VidCon website policy states that:

"There is no age limit to attend VidCon. If you are under 18 and your parents are okay with you going, then so are we! If you’re under age 13, then we require that you have an adult with you. Ages 8 and younger even get in for free."

Filed under Alex Carpenter Rosianna Halse Rojas Sarah Sterling LeakyCon

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Hank Green Unveils Projects Aimed at Combating Sexual Assault

In a new video (, Vlogbrother Hank Green has announced three separate initiatives aimed at combating sexual assault.

In it, he discusses the societal factors involved in sexual assault and, using an unusual metaphor involving a kitten and a cruise missile, blames patriarchal standards and societal expectations of romance as being a significant part of the problem:

"I’m explaining culture but I’m not excusing the behaviour, when we’re set up to assume that the kitten is gonna run whether the kitten wants the cruise missile or not, that enables abuse"

Although not directly mentioned in the video itself, it comes in the wake of allegations of rape and sexual assault against Tom Milsom and Alex Day, popular YouTubers, musicians, and now former clients of Green’s record label DFTBA Records.

The community has been rocked for days by these credible and very serious allegations and multiple, prominent YouTubers have come out in support of the victims and -in Day’s case- even add their own statements of abuse.

At the time Green stated that “you cannot fix a problem if you cannot face a problem”and it seems that he and his brother, author John Green, now intend to back that up with concrete action.

Task Force

The first of the initiatives is a task force composed of Nerdfighters, the name used to describe their channels community of subscribers, and actual survivors of rape and sexual assault.

Neither of the Greens has yet released any information on what the exact role and activities of this task force will be. It will presumably be involved in online advocacy and, this is pure unwarranted speculation, may have have some form of involvement in this years VidCon.


The brothers will be producing and funding a series of videos that discuss sexual abuse, consent and relationships, particularly within the context of the digital age and modern communication, citing Skype as an example.
It is not known who will be presenting them.


The vlogbrothers will be partnering with an as-yet unnamed number of established rape and sexual assault organisations and charities to “bring their work and their resources into our community and hopefully into other online communities as well”

While some of this information may seem vague it is worth noting the very short time frame in which these projects have been drawn up, it seems likely that new information and a deeper level of detail will be made public when the projects have been more fully developed.

Filed under Hank green alex day tom milsom vlogbrothers

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Further Allegations against Day, Day Makes New Statement, Atmosphere of Shock and Confusion as People Demand Answers

It’s been 2 days since allegations against Tom Milsom, and later former Sons of Admirals bandmate Alex Day, were made and the YouTube community is still deeply in shock.

Further accusations of sexual and emotional manipulation have been made about Day (, travel blogger Nephelia has released a statement alleging that he and his cousin, Sopio card co-creator Danny, traveled to her house and that it lead to things happening that she did not consent to:

"I stupidly shared a bed with Alex because he was holding my hand and I thought that was just gonna be it […] I’d never experienced anything like that before, especially when someone kind of ends up on top of you in the dark"

Furthermore, referring to Day’s cousin Danny and an un-named person, she states that:

“I had to listen to people who were 11 years apart having underage sex”

John Green

She also adds further credence to the theory that this was a long standing pattern of abuse by Day and a significant problem within the YouTube community as a whole, saying that:

“Alex texted Danny something along the lines of “which one do you want” because apparently he got first choice the last time this happened”

"when I first met Lindsey and I told her I had only been hanging out with youtubers for a few months, she told me to run away as fast as I could, and she was right. She was always right about that"

Shockingly, she says that none other than Vlogbrother John Green himself may have had suspicions about Day for years:

"John Green’s been warning girls after they have been in videos with Alex about him for the past few years"

"I used to be really good friends with Kim and she was in contact with John on skype and stuff, and after she was in a video with him (the test thingy one) John kind of gave her a warning about hanging out with him"

Day’s New Statement

Day has released a further statement (, apparently admitting to violating people’s lack of consent:

"Until yesterday, I thought that I had had only appropriate, though occasionally manipulative relationships with women. However, the model of consent that I followed, not that I specifically thought about it at the time - was that only “no” meant “no.” That is not what consent is."

Confusion and False Accusations

Despite valuable contributions from people who have collated as much valid information together as they can ( in many cases confusion has ruled the day, posts asking for any information at all fill the tags of many prominent YouTubers.

This has not been helped by completely fabricated accusations directed at Tyler Oakley and popular bloggers and now radio presenters Dan and Phil. Both sets have now either been recanted and removed by the author or outright disproven.

Frustration has even been directed at Vlogbrother Hank Green, his previous silence over the matter and Day’s as of then continued presence on the DFTBA website, in contrast to the almost immediate disowning of Tom Milsom after the original allegations were made against him, has prompted accusations of a lack of transparency.

In response, he said that:

"I am proud and honored that people look to me for guidance and I take that responsibility very seriously. Because I take it so seriously, and because so many people look to me, I have a responsibility to act carefully and productively"

"I didn’t mean to say that I was burying this and that the silence was the “appropriate” action. I meant to say that I am spending every second of this day working toward appropriate action, but I think that there is little to no value in reacting immediately when it is likely that further information is on the way"

Filed under alex day tom milsom john green Hank green youtube Sexual assault tw: sexual assault tw sexual assault

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YouTubers Make Statements That Suggest a Pattern of Abuse by Day

Prominent, longstanding YouTube vlogger and musician Lex Croucher and vlogger and LifeScouts designer Lindsey (known as Pottermoosh) have issued statements in the light of his denial of the previous anonymous statements made against him.

Their statements both directly conflict with Day’s assertion that “At no point in my life have I ever undertaken any romantic activity, sexual or otherwise, without being sure the other person wanted it”

In them they also echo very specific details included in the anonymous allegations, such as Day asking one anonymous accuser to sleep in his bed with him, kissing them against their wishes and even a particular question, word for word


"they both sound like I could have written them, aside from a few specific details. I definitely feel like I was manipulated emotionally by him and coerced into doing stuff that he was in no way 100% sure that I wanted to do. He used the ‘Can we skip the part where you say no for an hour before anything happens?’ line on me too"


"Alex kissed me, and I stopped him and told him I didn’t want to as I was recently getting over a break-up and wasn’t ready. I told him I just needed him to be my friend. Alex ignored this, and continued to try to kiss me despite what I’d said. He later asked me to sleep in his bed and was very frustrated with me when I refused"


In a private conversation with Croucher today, in light of his denial of the anonymous allegations against him, he apparently has expressed his own idea of what he feels consent to mean. A definition that flies in the face of that accepted legally and societally:

"[He] clarified that actually it wasn’t a contradiction, because despite the fact that I made it clear I wasn’t consenting to a kiss, in his mind he was still sure I wanted it because he thought my reasons for saying no were something he could ‘make me feel better about’ or that I ‘did want it, but just needed help getting that issue out of the way’"

It remains to be seen whether there will be more statements made alleging that Day has applied his apparent ideas of “consent” to them, but it is certain that what has already been said will constitute a damning verdict in the eyes of many and will increase calls for Day to be removed from the community in much the same way that other YouTubers like Tom Milsom, Mike Lombardo, Kelly Montoya and Eddplant have been after similar allegations were made against them.

Facing the Problem

It also further emphasises questions of whether the concept of YouTube celebrity and the general culture surrounding it has allowed a atmosphere conducive to abuse to develop and what can possibly be done to combat that in the future.

Founder of VidCon and prominent early Vlogger Hank Green has said that “you cannot fix a problem if you cannot face a problem”.

What facing the problem will mean for the community is unclear, but it cannot be allowed to become empty words.

Filed under Alex Day Tom Milsom Lex Croucher Pottermoosh youtube

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Anonymous Allegations of Sexual Abuse Denied by Alex Day

Presumably sparked by yesterday’s revelations of sexual abuse allegedly committed by YouTube musician Tom Milsom against his then underage former girlfriend Olga, three anonymous blogs making similar allegations against fellow Sons of Admirals singer and vlogger Alex day have subsequently surfaced.

One account states that Day sexually assaulted her when she was just 14 and that he then subsequently stalked her over the course of a year or more, another account states that he assaulted her while she was sleeping and emotionally manipulated her into staying with him and accepting his unwanted advances.

The last simply says that he used her to cheat on his current girlfriend and mislead her about the relationship.

The blogs have thus far not provided any specific contextual information, corroboration or evidence of the alleged assaults.


Day has since made a post on his tumblr ( acknowledging and explicitly denying the allegations, saying that:

"At no point in my life have I ever had a sexual relationship with someone under the age of consent. (For full disclosure, I’ve said publicly that I lost my virginity at age fourteen, but the girl in question was sixteen - the UK age of consent - so this point stands.) At no point in my life have I ever undertaken any romantic activity, sexual or otherwise, without being sure the other person wanted it"

He added that:

"Ultimately, the decision to believe me, or continue to support my work, is yours alone"


The reaction to the allegations has been mixed, with some coming out in direct support of the anonymous blogs, saying that the accusations against Milsom convinced survivors to come forward, as sometimes happens in such cases, while others have questioned the authenticity and motives of their statements.

Unlike Tom Milsom, no prominent YouTubers have denounced him so far and his work remains firmly in place on the DFTBA records website.

Also in contrast to Day, Milsom has released no statement on the allegations made against him.

[This post will be updated with any new information that becomes apparent, all updates will be described here]

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Tom Milsom Rape Allegations Raise Questions About Power Relations Within Youtube Community

In a tumblr post ( his former girlfriend Olga has revealed that Milsom raped and otherwise sexually and emotionally abused her over the course of their six month relationship, which started when she was just 15 and progressed to physical abuse shortly after she turned 16, under the legal age of consent in Missouri. The two met at Vidcon 2010 when she was 14 and he was 21.

This is not the only post Olga has made about Milsom’s behaviour, this just being the first to spark widespread condemnation of the musician. Along with details of multiple alleged assaults they include a screen grab of a conversation between them which apparently shows Milsom acknowledging his actions, saying that “certainly there are things about our relationship that were questionable”.

In regards to coming forward now she has said that:

"it took me a long time to come to terms with the fact that it wasn’t my fault ok i blamed myself for a very long time i figured there must’ve been something wrong with me if i wasn’t enjoying it because so many girls my own age would’ve fucking killed to be where i was and i had to put it to the back of my mind for a long time because it was so shameful and i didn’t want to admit to anyone that was skeptical of our relationship that maybe i’d been wrong and stupid and now years down the road i’ve had a lot of time to think about it and i’ve learned a lot more about sexual abuse and i started to really understand and line up the events"


Milsom’s work has already been removed from the DFTBA records online shop and from the lineup of this years Summer in the City event by former close friends Liam Dryden and Alan Lastufka, organiser of SitC and co-founder of DFTBA records respectively and who -along with other prominent YouTubers- have also made posts repudiating Milsom’s actions.

"I am making no attempt to hide the fact Tom and I were once friends. He spent a weekend at my house, we worked on numerous songs and other musical projects together back in 2009. But hearing about some of the things he’s done, and was doing back then, has hurt, and I no longer wish to make another dollar off his fame or name"

Hank Green has also made a statement regarding it, making particular mention of the fact that the two first met at VidCon, the largest annual event within the community.

"I met Olga in 2010 at VidCon. She was a very smart, very clever, very cool young woman. […] I had no inkling that they had become a couple. I am horrified and extremely disappointed in myself that I was not able to realize that this was happening and put a stop to it […] […]the more fact that it existed infuriates me…sexual relationships need to be equitable and they can’t be when people are in dramatically different life stages or when one person enters the relationship as a fan of another."

This follows a number of other allegations against popular YouTubers, namely against musicians Eddplant, Kelly Montoya and most notably, Mike Lombardo, who was sentenced to 5 years in prison and made to register as a sex offender just 2 weeks ago.

Lombardo was made the subject of an FBI investigation after a friend of a underage girl he was grooming tipped them off to his activities and evidence was subsequently found on his phone.

Wider Problem

Much has been said about “fangirls” and the exaggerated social gap that has developed between popular producers of YouTube content and the consumers of that content since the end of the relatively egalitarian culture of the website’s beginning. This gap is particularly concerning when those consumers tend to be young and impressionable.

Examples of the power creators wield over their viewers include fairly innocuous things like asking for votes to win competitions or crowd sourcing funding for concerts.

However, there have also been incidents that led to accusations of overinflated egos, such as people crowd surfing over fans at gatherings, mismanaged events that led to serious injuries and sometimes of outright exploitation.

The question now is whether what these YouTubers are believed to have done (in Lombardo’s case convicted of) is simply an example of the wider societal rape and sexual assault problem and the repugnant actions of individuals, or, whether the attitude of superiority that exists within some sections of the YouTube community has become a far, far more serious problem.

The fact is that her age and their relationship was no great secret. She was his fan, and they met at VidCon.

There is a responsibility in that and it belongs to everyone.

Filed under Tom milsom Youtube VidCon Mike Lombardo eddplant Tw rape tw sexual assault rape

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Women On YouTube



Continuing the discussion from the Women on YouTube panel, The Ladies Survey and Becoming YouTube: Girls On YouTube, I decided to start pulling together a list of the brilliant, funny and inspiring women on the Tubes. 

I’ve started by adding - and linking - some of my favourite women YouTubers, but I’d love if you could either reblog this and continue the list, or message me the name(s) of more YouTubers so I can add them on! I have Anon asks enabled, if you’d prefer to keep your identity private.

I’m also extremely aware that my list is predominantly white, cis women and am very sorry that this is the case in the first place. I will continue adding to this list and aim to change that.

Women on YouTube





















Hannah Witton

















Meghan Tonjes













ParisLees (who is also an outstanding journalist and generally my favourite person -J.M)















Didn’t know if you wanted peeps to add to the original list or make an additional one? also the capitalizations kind of iffy at best ‘cause I’m drugged up and tired.

(via ultravioletcataclysm)